The Premise
In this lifetime, always remember that each of us is a spiritual being, not just a human or sexual being. We are all souls inside male and/or female bodies and not merely bodies with souls. We are all here on earth playing our unique individual roles while expressing our sexuality through spirituality.

Sex - The Human Perspective    
Like any other form of obsessions, sex through sexual intercourse brings pleasure depending on the performance of the partners or the couple. But it can also cause some pressures, anxieties and strain to a boy-girl or marital relationship or worst, when not handled very well, can cause the break-up of the relationship or separation of husbands and wives leaving their children to suffer the worst consequence of their indecision due to wrong perspective and adulterated ideas about sex and sexual relationship.. 

In an even established bond, the sex obsession may take the form of keeping alive the physical attraction, because our social mindset is such that, if we do not have good sex in a long-term pairing, we start to believe that there is a basic flaw and fundamental problem in our relationship.  So, what most of us do is go to the gym to maintain our figure and stamina, take vitamins and medicines to enhance our sexual performance without considering the side effects of the drug to our health and do all other activities that will help maintain our sexual ability.

Is this the real issue?  Is there a deeper reason why relationship between boyfriend and girlfriend or husbund and wife cools off and eventually dies?  Let us explore the relationship or union between two individual who love one another.

4 Levels of Union
1. Meeting of the Bodies - represents the physical and the lowest of the four levels.  In essence, sex is not synonymous or interchageable with love because love is a spiritual energy while sex is physical energy.   Emotional fulfillment through love is readily attainable even without sexual intercourse.  Physical or sexual attraction is not love but “lust” at first sight. 

Do you still remember when you first met your spouse, your girlfriend or boyfriend?  What was your first attraction?  If it was his or her physical attributes like her beautiful eyes and sexy body or his muscular built and macho physique, then, your attraction was purely physical.  There is nothing wrong with it.  It is natural and a good but not ideal to start a relationship.

2. Meeting of the Hearts - This is truly a magical experience and only comes through time and with initial but intimate bonding.  This level is more of an emotional toleration than merely understanding of each other’s physical attributes and sexual experiences. 

In this kind of situation, we know that we have the same feelings as with the other person, at least for a moment.  in the same manner, we think that what we are experiencing and expressing is already love, but without us being aware of it, this is still lust in a very subtle form which is also known as attachment.

Too much attachment with each other is not also good.  Sometimes, it is mistaken for real and true love but it is definitely not.  When we are so so close and attached, we easily get hurt like putting our finger very close to the flame of the candle.

Likewise, just like reading a book quite close to our eyes or moving a chair while sitting on it, both are difficult to do.  We cannot see, read the mind and understand the person clearly or he or she becomes a burden and heavy to carry.

It is always good to maintain a certain comfortable and allowable distance between us so that we can see and understand each other clearly and with a better perspective.  It is also suggested that we must not sit on the weaknesses and negative attitudes of our partners or spouses. Rather, we should carry and uplift them by focusing on their innate goodness and original qualities as a souls or spiritual beings and children of God like us.

3. Meeting of the Minds - Doubts and jealousy are of more controlled feelings and emotions. They are normally expressed with positive notes and in very encouraging moods and tones, sometimes, in jests or in light jokes. We do not take jealousy seriously.  We become more a bit mature and we take this crippling attitude lightly.

When both partners think the same way or one says something that the other was already thinking, this is a very special demonstration of love.  Conversations take place without a word being spoken, often, only through a knowing glance. 

When we glance at each other intimately, we cannot help but to look in between our eyes, at the middle of the forehead.  When we do this, there is a very special feeling which goes beyond our normal experience.  This is a spiritual or soul to soul communication.

Again, do you still remember your courtship days, the most romantic stage of your relationship?  I am sure you loved looking at each other’s eyes and you enjoyed it so much that you could even do it the whole day without getting tired of it.  Why is it that after getting married, we seldom or we do not even look at each other’s eyes anymore or when we do, we slap each other’s face with our angry look?  Maybe, our relationship needs to be refreshed by being more creative and not passive in looking for ways and means on how to bring back our courtship days and romantic stage.

It is highly suggested and recommended that to sustain our marital relationship, we reminisce our courtship days and revisit our romantic stage regularly, especially, when the very fiber of our relationship is being threatened by the pressures of our jobs, business and family matters.  Take your spouse for a dinner or watch a movie.  It is quite relaxing.  Sexual intercourse cannot sustain a marital relationship and if does, it will definitely for a very short period of time only.

4. Meeting of the Spirits - In this state, we walk with ease through each other’s worlds without fear or barrier.  Trust, respect and acceptance are truly complete - a situation that is rare in present relationships, but one that may need to be rediscovered within our union. 

If a stranger of an opposite sex calls or sends text messages, it does not even occur to us that something illicit is going on or if a person of an opposite sex looks, stares or becomes attracted with our partner, it does not even bother us or makes us jealous.

Likewise, if a letter arrives for our partner, we have no nagging impulse to read it to check for a possible but an unacceptable intimacy.  This is beginning to be a real kind of love, one that lasts, not “lust”, which will turn into “dust”, the kind of relationship that has an unconditional understanding, respect and acceptance.

As we get older and when our ageing and sick bodies cannot anymore express the “love” for each other through “sexual intercourse”, then it is only through the recognition and valuing of the inner beauty of  each other that we can truly rediscover our wholeness and wellness again.

We do not have to get old, become physically and sexually incapacitated due to accidents, heart disease or diabetes to reach this very rich stage or level of union in our marital relationship. Let us consider and experience it now while we still young and our relationship is still very exciting and promising.    

Jealousy
Is the lowest and worst form of fantasy and its postscript is misery.  It is borne out of lack of trust, respect and acceptance for the other person and lack of commitment to the relationship.  It is a negative fantasy and it is sometimes referred to as “fantasy-zed catastrophy-zing or sexualizing.

Fantasy-zed catastrophy-zing is a prolonged apprehension, suspicion or imagination that something illicit is happening or will happen in our relationship, marital or otherwise, creating unfounded fear in a very slow but consistent fashion, expressed negatively and sometimes forcefully even nothing bad really happens, in which most of the time, self-serving.

When there is jealousy, there is worry which creates fears in us resulting in hate, rage and anger towards our partner or spouse leading to break-up of relationship and eventually, separation at the expense of our children, the unwilling victims of a broken family.

From Sex to Spirituality
Sexuality is recognizing, admiring and appreciating the dominant physical attributes, mental abilities, emotional tendencies and spiritual qualities of the opposite sex.  It means that, if my wife, Ellen, can handle very well the pliers, saw, hammers and nails with precision, I can appreciate and not be threatened by it and Ellen feels the same way if she sees me washing and ironing clothes because this is what I am good at and more comfortable with.

Procreation, not Recreation
Let us look at sex in its God’s original grand design and function.  Sexual intercourse or act is for procreation, not for recreation.  After this purpose has been served and we have already harvested its fruits, our children, then, this physical and/or sexual union has to give way to a much higher level of union. Eventually sex has to give way to the meeting of spirits, the true meaning of “soul mates.”

Some of us abuse, make a mockery or even defame this beautiful gift from God by turning it as an alternative physical exercise even putting numbers such as 68, 69, 70, etc., to the different positions we perform.  Sometimes, or even most of the time, we become more cretaive in sex that in life itself and unconsciously, we make sex as an important pillar of our relationship blurring the real issues.

Giving way to a much higher level of union such as partial celibacy or sexual abstention is not an act of repression, deprivation or denial.  it is the only way we can conserve and use our physical, emotional and spiritual energies in a more productive and worthwhile manner. It is also a very vital method to use the power of love to create a better quality of life.

Love is an elevated form of spiritual energy.  It is a higher emotional expression coming from the mind and passing through the heart. It is highly personal and its lowest physical manifestation is expressed through the sexual organs.

Asexual Reproduction
This may appear to be a very thought provoking revelation for you.  But just the same, allow me to share this with you on a take it or leave it basis.  It is an extra knowledge and it is for free anyway. 

In this most auspicious confluence age, the age of revelation and information, carried out through the very fast and highly advanced technology, it is better to have an inquisitive mind and ever inquiring intellect to benefit more from life in this most challenging time of fast and instant changes.

Just be more open minded and churn it and churning is like chewing a gum, savoring the sweetest and the best part of it, taking it out from your mouth, sticking it under your table or chair, getting and chewing it again to savor the better part of it until you are able to get the maximum benefit from all the information you got from the knowledge.    Again, have a firm faith in all your beliefs and believe firmly in your own faith.  Do not change it. Stick with it.

During the olden times, more than 2500 years ago, there was no need for sexual intercourse in order to have children.  It is believed then, that since there was a very high level of purity in the minds of its inhabitants, everyone is considered holy.  It is also said that because of purity of thoughts, a soul in a male body, with all its pure spiritual powers, can impregnate, with all the good intent and purpose of creation, his female counterpart and have a child with her.  Touch me not and have child.

Sounds unbelievable and crazy?  Maybe for us in this modern technological time, it is, but definitely not for the inhabitants of the old world in their own spiritual time.  Is it not that we learned from other religious persons that through the power of the Holy Spirit, Jesus was born by a Virgin we call Mary?  Do you think it is about time to dig and rediscover some  facts and hidden truths about the world, our Religion and some of its still undisclosed information?  Check it out. Use the Web. You might discover it for yourself.

And God said, go out and multiply and probably, what He meant then was to increase His flock of pure, peaceful, loving, happy and simple human beings exactly like that of His Son, Jesus.  Because of sexual intercourse, perversion, wrong perceptions and misguided interpretations of God's holy and divine instructions, our beautiful, peaceful and abundant world is now ugly, dirty, very noisy, war ravaged, poverty stricken, and degraded because of over population.

The True Color of Love
What do you think is the true color of the energy of love?  Is this a thought provoking question for you also?  Most of us will probably say that it is red and whenever we mentioned these two words, love and red, the first two things that come into our minds are the month of February and the day of St. Valentine.  It is ironic but amazing that this is the day and the month when a lot young girls and boys and even old men and women lose their virginity.

For the Boys
Where are living in a world full of double standards and one of these is boys are allowed by society and it is perfectly fine to their family, especially, to the proud fathers to lose the virginity of thier sons, while for girls, it is a taboo and the father will even kill the guy who deflowered his daughter but will secretly praise his son if his girlfriend gets pregnant.

For the boys, in fairness to your female counterparts, keep also your virginity until your first night with your future wife.  Do not ever lose it just to show to the world your macho image or to prove your manhood.  You owe your virginity to your future wife and she deserves it as much as you do.

For the Girls
If by chance, your good for nothing boyfriend will tell you that if you really love him, you will have sex with him and you should offer to him your virginity as proof of your love for him, don’t ever give in.  He is fake and faking.  He will just take advantage of you.  Leave him and look for another boy who will not use sex as a prerequisite and condition for love.  If you marry this kind person, you will regret it for the rest of your life because he will do the same to other women even if he is already married.  So, don’t tell me that I did not warn you on this.

Quotable Quotes
1. Sex starts in the mind.  So it is a mental attitude and function – The biggest sex organ in not the muscle hanging down there but the brain.  Sexual stimulation is through the mind passing to the brain and both partners cannot successfully perform the act without entertaining first in their minds the thought of doing it.

2. There is no such thing as sex organs, only urinary drainpipes – God is perfect and His creations are also perfect including our bodies.  But our imperfect minds and impure intellects called the penis and vagina sex organs and use them for sensual pleasure when their main function is for excretion of waste in our body.

Sex at its lowest form
Everything that is considered spiritually good must be up there and elevated.  If sex and/or sexual intercourse, is an elevated creation or act, then, God could have thought and put our penis and vagina up there somewhere in our heads and the best place could be in our foreheads.  I can just imagine how I look if my penis is at the middle of my forehead.  Maybe, I will have a very poor vision and perspective in life because the only image I will have for the globe is a vagina.

Sex through sexual intercourse is the lowest expression of love.  For some, they make it as one of their primary conditions for loving their partners or spouses.  If this is so, we are stepping on a very weak foundation for our relationship because fulfillment through sexual intercourse is very short and it cannot and will never sustain a marital or a boy and girl relationship for long. Our sexual organs are placed very low down there because they are not as important in our relationship.

Cerebral Rapists
Human beings, regardless of sex, think, fantasize, strip naked and perform sexual intercourse with their opposite sex without his or her unwilling and chosen partner knowing it. What probably we are not aware of is that we commit grave sins when we do this because only us and God know that we are entertaining bad and abusive thought against the person since he or she does not have the slightest idea that we are already having sex or raping him or her in our minds.

Master-Vision, not Masturbation
We are all supposed be master-visionaries and not bunch of masturbators. We should all become masters in visualizing our pure, original, eternal and immortal identity as souls and not masters in visualizing the bodies of our opposite sex while we are masturbating.  Again, we also commit grave sins against God and against the very person who is the object of our fantasy and sexual tripping for the same reason the he or she does not know it.

Statutory Rape
In any relationship between man and woman, there is always such a thing as statutory rape or consensual sex, with or without marital blessing.  This is a very special reminder for girls of age and women.  Know your legal rights.  Always remember that your husband or boyfriend cannot force you, much more, threaten you in any manner or form, to have sex with him without your consent. 

Leave them or break up with them if they insist.  Do not be martyrs.  The word martyr is just a glamorized word for being a victim.  Forget it. You do not have to fight with them.  You do not deserve  sex freakss and sexual perverts like them.  Look for partners who will love you and not look at you as their sex objects and who believe that they can have sex with you anytime they wish.  Girls and women, this is just a reminder.  Although it is very rare, boys and men have also the right to complain for the same case and for the same reasons.

The 8 Basic Questions about Sex
1. Is sex a gift from god?
2. Is sex a blessing from god?
3. Is sex valuable?
4. Is sex edible?
5. Is sex laudable?
6. Is sex desirable?
7. Is sex indispensable?
8. Is there sexual intercourse in heaven?

If our answer is yes to all of the above-stated questions, then, probably, we can consider sex or sexual intercourse very important even next to food and water, so important that we cannot survive and live without it.  Just like food on the table, it is so important and sacred for us that we have say our prayers before meals to thank the Lord for the blessing.

Prayer before Sexual Intercourse
Do you pray before the act?  Can you do it?  Really? Can you still perform the act successfully after praying?  Do you both kneel naked in front of God and pray before doing the act?  How do you do it?  Can you share it with me please?  Does your prayer go like this?

Bless us O’ Lord, in this thy gift, which we are about to perform in front you, and on your beautiful bed, through Christ, our Lord, Amen.  Isn’t it awkward, demeaning and defaming?

Sex is not Life
We must always remember that we are not just human or sexual beings.  We are supposed to be spiritual being, more than just physical bodies which are made of temporary matter.  We are all souls inside male and female bodies, not just bodies with souls. We are eternal and immortal. Likewise, We should not ever forget that sex is just a means to a temporary happy life, but definitely, it is not life and sexual intercourse is just a fleeting experience which is only as good as it lasts. Probably, it just lasts for three minutes maximum after thirty minutes of very tiring foreplay and after three hours or three days preparation.

Points to Wonder
1. Sexual intercourse is not bad.  It just makes you mad and sad.
2. Sexual intercourse, we are not glad.  It makes our children young mom and dad.
3. Sexual intercourse is not dirty.  It is just messy afterwards

Celebrate.  Be Celibate.  Do not Salivate
1. Celibacy means Virginity;
2. Virginity means Integrity;
3. Integrity means Dignity;
4. Dignity means Divinity:
5. Divinity means Purity

Purity and the Over Populated World
Be Pure.  Be Sure.  Be celibate and keep your virginity.  Help maintain the remaining but very low pure and positive energy of the world.  Our purity and virginity can still help to sustain the world and prevent it from further decline, decadence, degradation and eventual destruction.  Go out and multiply.  Increase the number of men and women who will subscribe to this idea and answer our call to unite for true land spiritual ove and not for sex.  Do not increase the population.

If there is purity of thoughts, there will surely be purity of words, actions, relationships and connections which will bring happiness, peace and prosperity to us, to our family, to our country and to whole world.

Three Good Reasons
To all young girls and women.  Give me three (3) or more good reasons why you should marry and I will give you three (3) better reasons why you should not.  If your reasons are for companionship, to have children, to have somebody to love, to fulfill one’s womanhood and motherhood, to have a family, to be financially stable, etc., these are all good reasons.  No doubt.  Now, let me give you mine and if you will be able to satisfy all of them, go ahead and get married.  But if one is lacking, don’t.

1. If you are sure that you will be happy when you get married, then, by all means, get married.
2. If you are sure that you can make you partner or spouse happy, then, by all means, marry him or her.
3. If both of you are pretty sure that you can make your child happy, then, marry and have a child.

However, I would like to reiterate and appeal to you that, for one reason or another, you will not be able to satisfy any one of the above, please think thrice before engaging in this lifetime commitment because chances are, your marriage will fail and the ones who will suffer most are not both of you but the innocent and unwilling victims, your children and this is one of the greatest sins we commit against them and God.

A Friendly and Brotherly Reminder
Ang sabi ni Kuya June or Tito June: Marry a Human Being, not a Sexual Being.  Be sexy but not sexist and be sexist but not rapist. Be simple.  Be Sample.  Wear simple dresses.  Become an example. Do not have a rape-able look.  As I always say, it is always better to be the good version of yourself than the best version of others.  Be natural.  Be original.  Do not be sensual and sexual.  Always remember that God has no gender or sex and therefore dosn't do sex.  I repeat, sexual intercourse is for procreation, not recreation.

Disclaimer:
This presentation is based on my own interpretation and personal experiences and does not reflect that of my sources of materials and information.